Friday, June 27, 2008

"When does my cancer be gone?"

I'm hearing this question more and more often.

I'm really at a loss as to how to answer.

He can't understand the subtleties of remission versus cure. Now that I think about it, no one has even used the word remission with us anyway. Are we there yet?

I'm afraid that if I tell him it's gone, I'll have to tell him it's back.

Is that worse than telling him that it's still there, but hiding?

Ugh. Transposing my layered and complex thoughts to a three year old with a concrete brain...


rlbates said...

Have sit here trying to figure out a nice "black and white" way to put it. None of them seem to work. Maybe Dr David could help you with some thoughts.

SOCKS said...

Good suggestion from RLBATES.

Dr David speak up please!

Femail doc said...

Can you make it into a process rather than a black and white outcome? As in "so far we've kicked its cancerous butt into a corner, and we're just gonna keep on kicking."

ArkieRN said...

Maybe tell him that the doctor can't see the cancer anymore in the "pictures" so they think it's gone but cancer is sneaky and it may be hiding so the doctors will take pictures occasionally to make sure it's really gone.

Anonymous said...

How about, "I don't know, Honey. We'll just have to wait and see. Hey, I'll race you to the mailbox!"