Friday, June 18, 2010


One lesson that I have learned since Henry got sick is that people deal with such profound loss and grief in very different ways. Liz and Jay Scott, parents of Alexandra Scott who died of neuroblastoma 10 years ago, channeled some of their emotion into the development of the foundation started by Alex before her death, "Alex's Lemonade Stand". Their mission is largely about funding pediatric cancer research, though recently their literature show that they are also expanding into family support. We have funneled most of our charity event money toward their foundation.

I am always amazed by Liz' calmness and grace on her many fundraising and awareness-raising appearances. I truly don't know how she does it.

Today I received an email from the foundation, as she reflected on ten years without Alex. I'll reprint her list of 10 lessons; I found each of them to be profoundly true to my experience as well.

Of course, I also miss Alex every day. Last week, I spent some time reflecting on the fact that it has been a decade since Alex's first stand. As I thought about the past decade, with all its happiness and sadness, I realized that this milestone in the history of the foundation coincides with what should have been a milestone in Alex's life. Today, Alex would have finished her last week of middle school, and celebrated her passage into high school with her classmates and friends.

That really gave me a lot to think about...What would Alex be like as a 14-year-old? Who would her friends be? How would she get along with her brothers? Would she get along with me or think I was annoying? So many questions, so many things I will never know. As I thought about these things I will never come to know, I realized all of the things I am privileged to know. Life lessons that I have learned because of Alex, her life, her legacy, and the wonderful supporters who continue it.

So, in that spirit, I created a List of 10 Lessons learned over the past decade:

1) Our children are much stronger than we are in every way.

2) Truly living for the day is something everyone should experience in their lifetime.

3) Good friends are found in tough times.

4) Life is unfair sometimes~ accept it and make something good out of it.

5) Putting on a happy face can actually make you feel happy (try it, it works!).

6) There are many more good people in the world than bad people.

7) Time does not heal all wounds.

8) Inspiration comes in all shapes and sizes.

9) One person can truly make a difference in the world.

10) Many people working together can accomplish amazing things.. including curing childhood cancer.

Thank you Alex, and thank you Alex's Lemonade Stand Supporters. You have a lot to be proud of.

Liz Scott
Alex's Mom

Thank you, Liz, for all that you do.


rlbates said...

Good advice no matter which family member is lost (child, mother, etc). Best to your husband this Father's Day

SOCKS said...

Thank you for sharing this - we will continue to support Alex's Lemonade Stands - wherever, whenever.

Stickhorsecowgirls said...

Just today I posted about getting my zest for life back, after its long absence. I used a ten-point quote from Gandhi, which reminds me of some of this 10 list. Just good advice/lessons. C